Learning the technique of Fighting Fair is imperative in a marriage. Being able to convey how you are feeling without hitting below the belt or opening past wounds helps move the conversation in the right direction. Once you are aware of how much power your words have regarding your relationship you can approach conflict from a different perspective. Anger should never lead conversations, start with positives that lead to your point of frustrations yet remain calm and in control of your feelings and actions. For instance do not roll your eyes, cross your arms, raise your voice, walk away form your spouse, avoid eye contact, become aggressive etc. Your feelings are important and should be validated but your words and behavior are just as important. ~Husbands Coach