Plug the IRDA directly into the computer, loose the cord. That was my problem the brand new cord was bad. I had the same exact problem it frustrated the hell out of me. By the way the IRDA is line of site it does not need to be touching or within an inch.
No, but within an inch helps. More important is precise alignment... some IR dongles are more sensitive than others, and need the IR directly in line.
I used to this method with my SmartTec before I upgraded to the Galileo Sol, but the method works well on both computers. Be sure to take the scratch guard off the SmartTec, of course, so you don't block the signal. It's not an issue on the Galileo. Also be sure the dongle is plugged in and the system has had time to recognize it... THEN launch the software. Sometimes SmartTrak isn't as good as it should be at noticing that new hardware has been added.
Turn the SmartTec on it's side so the IR window is down, and put it on the edge of your finger. Bring it up to the IR dongle, and put the IR dongle on the
other side of your finger, so the two are precisely in line, and about 1cm apart (more or less, depends on how thick your fingers are!). Make sure the dive computer is on, and click download in the SmartTrak software to initiate the connection. It should be able to find the computer and start downloading within a second, if not, try moving things slightly until it connects. If it takes more than 5 seconds, stop and start over from the top. Once you find the "sweet spot" for your computer and IR dongle, it should be quite easy to repeat every time.
Note: Once it connects, be very careful not to move the computer until it's done, or you'll break the connection and it will time out, requiring you to start over.
YMMV, but this method has worked well for me for 2 IR dive Computers, 2 IR dongles, and about 4 years of successful transfers.
I'll see if I can take a photo... it's not complicated, it's just hard to describe.