Within The Design

There is a conversation that I firmly believe holds a lot of value and worth, in actually taking the time to have this conversation, and while I am fully aware that it inspires very uncomfortable feelings, it is definitely a conversation that is worth having, if you seek to have peace of mind when the day no one ever wants to come, arrives at your doorstep.

No one wants to die, but no one wants to have the very real conversation that comes with this entire topic. Prior to the passing of my wife, her and I got together and had the conversation that entailed what each of us wanted the other to do, in the event, one of us passed away before the other, and while this was not an easy conversation to have, it granted me substantial and profound amounts of mental peace, after losing my wife.

I can honestly say, that since the day I lost JoAnn, I have been putting into place, all of the things which we talked about, regarding what I know I need to do for myself, in order to have my greatest shot at success, and independence. I happen to be the type of guy, that has to push myself, in order to feel really accomplished, and worthwhile, and in so doing, I find that I have purpose in this life. Doing things that we know are good for us, are not just good for us, they are good for all of the people we share our lives with. I happen to know that there is probably something wrong with my health, but I am also aware that I am doing every, conceivable thing to maintain good health for as long as I possibly can.

I seek to be around for as long as possible for all of those who need me, and going over things like trusts, and financial information is all very smart to do, but in my opinion, there are other things of much greater weight, than financial matters, when losing a loved one, and those are matters of the heart, such as, what can I do to best honor your memory, what would you like me to do, that would bring us both happiness, what is it that you want to see me achieve, and above all else, What is it in the time you have known me, that you have noticed that brings me happiness.

The reason I phrased some of these questions the way I did, is because having an outside perspective in regards to what others notice, that brings you happiness, can be very beneficial when you find yourself struggling in a world that you no longer notice.

That is the world you will be in, where that loved one is no longer living. I have been there before, and I know how scary this place can be. Every move we make, feels somewhat alien to us, because that person, with which every move we used to make, we made for, is no longer by our side.

Knowing that the perspectives of others, and the happiness that they noticed within us, when taking part in various activities, that we may not even know ourselves, in regards to having the potential to inspire even the simplest forms of happiness. These tools will be necessary to master, when you are without the ones you love, because they will help you find your way back to yourself, when it feels as though you have lost the greatest sense of who you are.

Never give up on finding happiness, not just for yourselves, but for others as well.

Brightest Blessings

JandKsHealthyWays